another side to adoption - maybe?

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I’ve read a lot (read: too much) about adoption. And I’ve read from all sides, adoptee, adopter, birth parents. I’ve read international, domestic, foster care. And I’ve heard a lot of different opinions. But this one caught me a little off guard.
I was talking to one of the cooks here, a proud Bolivian woman. We were discussing her “hijito”, basically the 9 month old she claims as her own.
“Me amo a ese niño, Tia Sarah, le amo mucho.”
Translation: “I love him, Tia Sarah, I love him so much.”
We chatted a little about his adoption, why she didn’t want to, anyone whose expressed interest, and then she said something I didn’t expect.
“I don’t want him to stay here. I want him to go with foreign parents, to go somewhere else. Out of Bolivia.”

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